Establishing Rapport

Hi! Fred here with more self- improvement tips .  Before I begin my review I want to take a moment and give credit where credit is due.  This blogging thing is all new to me, I was really struggling with many parts of website building and overall internet knowledge.  I responded to an e-mail and established contact with a business that really has bent over backwards to help me out. These guys really believe in delivering the value.  I promised them I would mention their  website and here it is: These guys get five stars from me. Now back to the current review.

I’ve been watching videos again.  After thinking about my life for a while I came to the conclusion that I could communicate much, much better with my fellow humans.  So I went to youtube and looked up my guy Tony Robbins again. I found this video:

In this video Tony talks about Dr. Milton H. Erickson who is famous for his works in hypnosis but Tony describes his skills in rapport building. Dr. Erickson would talk to his patients using the same demeanor, language, and intensity as they displayed to him. If they were loud and talked fast; he would respond to them in the same manner. Mr Robbins describes the good Doctor as a genius in this area. People like people who are like themselves, or who are like how they themselves would like to be. Continue reading Establishing Rapport

Six emotional human needs

Hey everyone, Fred here again. I just got done listening to another free you tube video by Anthony Robbins.  This guy is a beast!  He has so many videos and they are all awesome.  The one I listened to today was about the six emotional needs of humans.  We all have needs.  The first line of needs is survival: air, water, food, shelter…etc.  Once our survival needs are met we have a second set of needs. Our emotional needs; while these needs aren’t  necessary for our immediate survival,  our minds still view them as a necessity and we spend most of our time trying to satisfy them with some vehicle.

We have six emotional needs: certainty, uncertainty, significance, connection, growth, and contribution. The last two: growth and contribution are not as necessary to maintain our self image , at least not until a certain level of development, so for now we will begin with the first four. Continue reading Six emotional human needs

Welcome to my new blog!

Howdy world!  My name is Fred.  I am 21 years old and I live with my father in oak lawn heights apartments. That is why I called this site   I am trying to figure out what to do with my life.  This blog will journal my thoughts on this journey.

I never have been a college kind of guy.  I have read many stories of successful men who didn’t go to college.  Maybe the key is belief in yourself; maybe that is where I should start. I don’t have much money but luckily the internet provides a lot of information. I think I’ll start with youtube.

I think I am partial to a guy named Tony Robbins. Man, this guy has been around forever.  There has to be a reason for it.  He certainly is successful.  When I listen to him I feel better about myself, I guess that is why I like him.

Rule # 1. – If you want people to like you make them feel good about themselves.

One consistent theme for change that Tony talks about is standards. Standards are the minimum that we will let ourselves accept. According to Mr. Robbins our standards are programmable by us. This means that we can change our minimum standards, thereby changing the point at which we will stop striving to get a specific goal. This is an astounding revelation.  If this is true then I have much more power than I ever thought possible.

I am blown away by this guy but I still need a course of action.  Right now I have a lot to learn about myself, and I think I have found the guy to teach me.

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I think my first steps will be to learn as much as I can from this guy.  He has a ton of free videos on youtube so I can get started now. I will try to summarize the videos on this blog so it will help me to learn the information and who knows: someone may see it and decide to make a change for the better in their lives.

Continue reading Welcome to my new blog!